I've heard
women use the term. Specifically, back when I was reading the largely but not completely
female-populated
Usenet newsgroup alt.sexual.abuse.recovery (long ago before it was overrun by
spammers), I remember a
female asarian referring to "abuse dicksizing" (people comparing their own stories to those of others and deciding whose experience had been
worst), which was not much approved of in a
support group that was for all abuse
survivors.